hi, it’s emily, founder of the bdsm coaches
I am a bestselling author, sex coach and educator, who specializes in helping people expand their sexual horizons through BDSM and kink. That is why I started this site - to help people get the coaching they need.
My philosophy is that everyone should have the sex life they want. Through kink and BDSM, you can find your passion, creativity and hot, steamy sex all in one place if you choose! Our coaches help you bridge the gap between where you are now, and how kinky you want to be. We are here as a guide and support to help mentor you through the world of BDSM and kink, which can sometimes be intimidating. Our coaching is grounded in ethics, self-development, growth and non-judgment. Sometimes we can seem like a kinky "best friend," someone you can tell your desires to without worrying about being judged.
We are here to help you on your kinky journey!
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We are standing by to help you up-level your sex life!
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Whether you want to learn more about BDSM or kink, or if you are more advanced and want to take it to the next level, our coaching offers transformation that can improve your life and relationships.
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happy clients
Erin
“Emily’s BDSM class was exciting, interesting and fun! It gave me new ways to think about my sexual desires and opened me up to possibilities that I had not considered. It was a wonderful step on my journey to explore and reclaim my sexual identity.”
Tayler
“I always knew there were kinky bits inside of me. Working with Emily has given me permission to let them out in a really beautiful way.
Her ability to remove sexual stigma and replace it with loving acceptance of the true diversity of people’s desires is so generous and productive. Not only has working with her taken my sexual experiences to heights I never knew, but the openness and progress I found has spread to all parts of my life and relationships both personal and professional. In other words, working with Emily has opened me up, transformed my life and I truly grateful.”
Zohra
“Emily was so helpful to me in getting me out of my shell sexually! So glad I found this woman, sex is fun and new again.”
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This questionnaire is a great way to learn about and communicate your desire to others. Use it as a tool of self exploration and/or use it with a partner to become closer and open up communication.
faq
+ Does sex coaching involve touching?
No touching or sexual role playing occurs with your coach. Emphatically “no.” We will assign you kinky homework to do that might involve touching yourself or your partner, but we never participate in your sex life.
+ What kind of issues can you help me with?
There are lots of reasons people seek out a kink or BDSM coach. We have helped clients gain:
- confidence in the bedroom
- more intimacy with their partner
- validation of their feelings around their kinky desires
- better knowledge of the ethics and best practices of BDSM
- better communication of desires
- a deeper bond with their partner
- a deeper understanding of their own pleasure
- higher self esteem
- insight into finding a kinky partner
- knowledge on how to get started in BDSM or introduce a partner to kink
+ Is sex coaching the same as sex therapy?
No. Our coaching involves addressing issues that come up that can be handled in a practical manner using self-help techniques and BDSM etiquette, as well as giving them ideas and homework to improve their sex lives. Sex therapy digs deeper and can deal with emotional issues and personal issues that compromise the core of a relationship or sense of self. We are not therapists and will refer you to one if we think your issue requires it.
+ How much time does it take?
That depends. Each individual client or couple has their own issues. Sometimes, an issue or need is simply and easily addressed in a targeted session to either address an issue or design a custom BDSM “scene.” On-going couples and singles’ sessions are available upon request and are often very useful to up-level your sex life and strengthen your relationship to kink and yourself and your partner.
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